Inside every man is a king and a fool / pay attention to our
children spend quality time / give time, don’t buy them toys take them out/
spent time with them / involve with them/ love them genuinely / listen to them
intangible investment / deliberately teach our children give then a legacy to
read / investment is a key to achievement / make every sacrifice possible to
ensure our children succeed
Value system (the
foundation)
The “background”
when constructing a building, the layout plan and the foundation must be physically powerful by so
doing the main construction will be able to withstand any structure that will
be mounted on the groundwork. while growing up I was opportune to have the best
and quality education in an environment where future leaders are groomed my parents were not that rich but we were
comfortable, the people I grew up with i.e. friends both at home and in school
had what is called discipline, respect for adult, sense of doing thing right, if
any of us kids is trying to go the other way round, before you know it one of
the kids is reporting to the nearest adult or available person in charge so
every kids is always at his or her best, we all have etiquette, (good manners) even the adult around us have
some sense of dignity, people obey traffic rules so every one know what is right and what is
wrong. There is value for life. I believe then each and every home then was
trying to protect their names and Family Value. No child does anything just by
him or herself, There is a bite of cheek and balance my mum! She is a no
nonsense personality as the only boy child in the house, full of energy,
vibrant and ready to jump, she (my Mum) did not give me any room to be free,
yet as a child I was stubborn and always
in one trouble or the other, what did my mummy do? She had to channel all that
energy in me into some useful venture by making me busy at all times
She makes me to do
all the laundry in the house, cook for
my sisters, she teaches me on how to direct my sister to be useful to
themselves and in the house, I am not saying my mum is perfect but she is an
instructor when it comes to her children upbringing
So parents have a lot to do when its come to effective
parenting, having a good sense of value will make a child grow up in the right
direction.
Believe system
Religion is another vital value that is needed to prepare a
child for the future Christianity and Islam are the most accepted religion
around the world today, whichever one you chose to believe in, research shows
that the manuscript the followers of these two religions used talks more about
morals and value for life, so parents should take it as point of duty to put
their children through the religious values and what the scriptures say about
being a good child. The family is an arrangement by God in which children can
be lovingly guided towards responsible adulthood, at home children and
disciplined thought social etiquette, consequence of good and bad behavioral pattern
Support system
Some of us are just fortunate to have whatever we want at
our disposal Finance, yes finance, some parent are well to do, so they get their
kids everything they need, the best in education, fun time during the holidays,
feeding, clothing and accommodation are all well and sufficient for the child
However it is not so for other children, in the street,
ghettos and slums in the 70s we have the
middle class that is, not poor, nor rich
but comfortable on the average, the children of this class can compete very well
and even do better than the rich kids at school, class work, sports and in
other life endeavor.
In Today’s world, it is either you are rich or poor, no
matter the class we find ourselves let us try to give our children the best in
morals, good value for life and education, these are like setting up a deep
foundation that will be strong enough to support the child for any circumstance
he or she may find him or herself in future.
Sex
a higher percentage of parents believe sex is something only
for the adult to discus, but you know what, we just have to talk about it with
our children especially the girl child, the boys need to be talked too, but the
girl child need to know more about sex early in life, if you do not talk about
sex with a girl child one way or the other she will get the information, she
may got it form the wrong source or persons. Children are at greater risk of
abuse, children are vulnerable are easily become target so parent must educate
their children on how to prevent sexual assaults. Some children ask questions
about the new development in their body system, the puberty stage e.g
Menstrual circle, pubic hair,
Brest development into bobs and other development in his or her body, why?
Because the child did not know why the body is reacting that way
How to carry themselves in the midst of men
The boy child needs to know why his body is reacting when he
is in the midst of girls and when ever his body is reacting, what will he do to
control himself
My religion makes me to see the female personality as special,
to be cared for, to be honored and to be loved
(my Mum, my sister and later my wife)
I can recall my Mum teaching my sisters how to sit like a lady when in public
and she always talk to me on how to behave with my sisters, though I am their
senior brother, nevertheless, they are all ladies
The teenage boy
versus the teenage girl
The teenage child is
now a young adult he or she is vibrant full of energy; believing he has arrived.
They are assets, useful around the home, intelligent in school, active in the
sport world, Music and other youthful inelegance
Time
Quality time is spent when the parent is there when the
child find out that he or she need some answer to critical questions about
life, an experience hand is needed to come to the child’s rescue
Questions like why is
my body developing?
Why is blood coming
out of my private part? What do I do?
I do not know who to
marry out of mark and may
Why am I having these
mussels?
The closest person to the child should be the parent, at
this junction the parent must be forthcoming I mean make themselves approaching
to the child so that he or she will find it easy to discuses certain issues
with the parent.
During the teenage life the best friend of a boy child
should be the father or an uncle, the same goes for the girl child, the Mum
should bring herself down to the level where both female have girls talk
Dressing
The way you dress is the way you will be addressed, the way
a child dressed up at home, for sch0ool, to other children party or dress to go
out, tells the kind of home he or she came from, rapist do not just rape, he
was instigated
The girl child should be thought how to dress well and learn
how to seat like a lady, some ladies dress to attract while some dress to kill which
ever way you dressed, you are making a statement.
do you know that all parts of the woman body is sexy, today
women find it interesting to exposed or flaunt their sexy part of their body,
so there is a lot of sex in the city
to be continued
